The Secret is Out!

DISCLAIMER:::: Before reading this post or commenting please take a moment to read our story and understand what we’ve been through the past 5 months, Hyperemesis Gravidarum, it’s not Morning Sickness.

20 weeks pregnant

I cannot believe I’m even posting this picture, I’m horrible at selfies! Can you tell? I don’t know how the fashion bloggers do it. Anyway, ready for some updates? I’m 20 weeks. BOOM. Halfway done, baby!!! The bump is starting and I have a few thoughts. First, it’s awkward. Maybe it shouldn’t be, but whenever I’m out or post any pics it’s like everyone is glancing at the belly to investigate anything. And if I happen to be wearing something that bunches funny everyone goes crazy that I’m getting, “fluffy!” Haha, I know it’s a good thing, but it totally cracks me up so I thought I’d wear my tightest clothes and let everyone see that it’s coming. Unfortunately I feel like the picture doesn’t really do it justice, but again, worst selfie taker ever.

Also, I’m for sure the biggest I’ve been at this stage, which is totally weird! I know, the picture doesn’t show it well but it’s coming on fast this time. Crazy!

Then there’s baby. Oh, our sweet baby. Baby is measuring a little over a week behind which all of our kiddos have measure behind and arrived 2 weeks early. Not going to lie, I am totally hoping this one comes early too. I can’t imagine having to wait those two extra weeks. I know, total sob story right? But we are just so excited to have our little one here and as long as it’s a safe time we are ready to go! Baby prefers to be breech with feet down which is why I feel the kicks so crazy low. Hoping for head down by delivery although right now it looks like we are dealing with placenta previa so c-section is on the horizon unless by miracle it moves as I grow. We are praying really hard as I’d like to deliver just like I did with the other two.


And since everyone has asked here’s how life goes. I am nauseous all day and especially at night. Then I have good days and bad days. The bad days I am so sick and can’t eat but vomiting is still nothing like it was before and I often still leave the house if I need to. In fact, no matter how sick I am I put on a smile and charge ahead because I have to be grateful for this precious time. It’s not always easy, but I’ve learned that attitude does make a difference. Deciding ahead of time that I’m not alone, I can do this and there are blessings to be found each day has made it more endurable. I’ve learned a great lesson about choosing happiness even during darkness.


Oh, and I guess you want to know our big secret right? The girls have done an amazing job of keeping it quiet for over a month now (see, blessings from being sick means weekly ultrasounds and early gender reveal!) and we are so impressed. And no, it’s not twins, the girls just desperately wanted to do a “cute” reveal of gender and picked baseball caps. Unfortunately after hunting every store in Utah I discovered that it’s impossible to find baseball caps for little kids so we had to settle for these two orange ones.



We are having a boy! And I win hands down because since before I could even take the pregnancy test I’ve had this strong feeling that I was carrying a little boy. Our girls and Cade knew I felt so strongly that it was a little man in there and it was so fun to see it on the screen. Peace was filling the room and we all were full of so much joy I cannot even explain it. A little Cade. We are so in love. In fact, I cannot stop the tears from flowing. We are beyond humbled to have this opportunity. Now to figure out names…

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Carrian Cheney

Lover of all things beautiful, good and delicious. Wife, mother, friend, foodie.

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37 comments on “The Secret is Out!”

  1. Congratulations on the birth of your little guy. My babies were born at 36 weeks and a day and 38 weeks. My daughters are both in their 20s and perfectly fine now. Some of us just don’t make it to 40 weeks.

  2. YAY! This is fantastic news! I am so happy for you!!!

  3. Carrian I’m so happy for you! That little guy is going to be one well loved little boy.

  4. Congratulations on having a little boy 🙂 that is wonderful….friends of my daughters’ have 2 girls , then they had a boy and they call him LITTLE MAN that is so cute, and everyone loves him…he is so cute….

  5. Oh that hat is the sweetest thing! I’m so excited for you. How fun it will be to see your girls fall in love with this little man. What a blessing! Continued prayers for you my friend!

  6. Wow……you love being skinny way too much. You really want the baby to be behind in his normal growth AND be delivered early too!. I actually didn’t mind delivering 3 days late. I didn’t mind stretch marks from gaining 50 lbs. I had 9 and 10 lb HEALTHY babies. IT WAS ALL ABOUT THEM NOT MY PERFECT FIGURE THAT I WANTED OTHERS TO ENVY.
    The pregnancy was a perfect way to lose more weight and attract more attention to yourself. It’s a sickness!
    Get some help. You’re not being a good mother to your unborn baby. He deserves 40 weeks in you. That’s how it’s supposed to work. You don’t feed your unborn well enough to carry full term. You’re extremely underweight and unhealthy. IT’S NOT PRETTY! IT’S A LIE!

    • Brenda – Have you read the previous posts from Sweet Basil? If not, please do before you judge her further.

      Sweet Basil – Congratulations!

    • Hi Brenda,
      I haven’t been sure how to respond to this as if you have read some of my social media or blog posts I’m sure you’ve read that how much weight I’ve lost from HG and the complications has been the only thing that has made me cry. It’s gross, and I’m quite aware, but now that I’m out of the hospital I am trying quite hard to work on getting back to a healthy place not just for baby but for me as well since I’m not comfortable with this. In the end though, I really have to pull myself togther and not worry about how skinny I’ve become from being so ill, but be so grateful to have survived and that baby has survived. Would you mind taking a moment to read my previous post to understand who I am and what my sweet family and I have been through? Best of luck to you and I’m so sorry you feel so strongly about the things stated above.

  7. So glad that you’re feeling a little bit better, and great news on the baby! You are truly an inspiration! God bless you and your whole family!

  8. My little boy is getting married in September . Looking back , time flies !! Enjoy this time with your girls because soon enough it’s all going to change ! My daughter married this past New Years Eve, now my Son !! My kids are the best thing I’ve ever done and my Husband and I cherish the adults they turned out to be !! I hope you are as lucky as we are !!

  9. Well congratulations! I had a boy and a girl. It’s great to have both.

    • I cannot wait for that! It will be so fun to have girly going on and then mix things up with a little guy to chase around. Phew, I’m tired just thinking about it!

  10. Ahhh! I am so happy for you guys! Boys are SO fun. <3 <3 <3

  11. Congratulations! Glad you are out and about. Boys are great! (I only have boys–4). I did think from the ultrasound it looked like 2 heads/twins. 😉

  12. so so happy for you! We are a family of all girls and my daughter is expecting her first baby Oct 8 – Its a boy and we are thrilled! Wish you all the best. Love your blog.

  13. After reading your story, I can’t fathom what you’ve been through. Your pic of your beautiful family makes my day. What a gift, huh? I have three girls and one boy and believe me, he is special. Thanks for your updates.

    • Thank you so much Sandi. It has definitely been a long road each time we’ve brought a child into the world but the trial has always been so worth it. I can’t wait to have a little boy in the house!

  14. May God bless you with a healthy baby.and always watch over your family.always keep him in your life and you will go far.

  15. c o n g r a t s !

    so happy for you.


  16. Yay for little boys!! So happy for you and your family 🙂

  17. Yay! So happy for you! Boys are a whole different world but so much fun!

  18. awwww I’m so happy that you’re getting better and that you’re having a little boy! What a wonderful blessing 🙂