Things Don’t Always Go As Planned


hyperemesis gravidarum

Well, what can I say to all of you amazing readers and friends to truly express how we feel? Your emails, messages, comments and posts full of support and love after LAST WEEK’S POST have meant so much to us. We wanted to continue the updates on this journey with you all since you’re like family and we feel this great need to educate on what Hyperemesis Gravidarum really is since googling it really doesn’t give an accurate picture.

Speaking of pictures, this one is so typical of the girls. They came to visit and after coaxing the little one who was quite nervous, both snuggled up on the bed but the moment Cade started snapping pictures they turned on the smiles and poses without me even noticing. Typical.

So here’s the update, we are 10 weeks pregnant, and unfortunately I’m stuck in the hospital until the Dr. feels good about me heading home. Today I was at 88 pounds, which is obviously quite low. I try so hard to keep things down, but my body just doesn’t care. I was so low in weight and dehydrated Dr Haskett felt this was the best option. Tomorrow we will meet with the specialist who will discuss my case and if they would like a feeding tube. We are praying really hard that I respond well to everything tonight and that I can avoid that. We are also hoping that by Sunday I can return home, if not then I trust the doctors and do the best that I can to be healthy.

Baby on the other hand, well it’s doing great! It’s measuring only a few days behind and pretty much sucking every nutrient it can from me. We are thrilled that baby is doing so well and we know it’s an amazing blessing. In fact all of this is. I was chatting with my nurse earlier about how if this was 200 years ago I wouldn’t have survived pregnancy. What a tender mercy to be born at a time when modern medicine could sustain my life. There are blessings each and every day and while I definitely have shed some tears, Cade and I both agree that we feel like our burden is light right now. We are seeing blessings each day and feel so positive about everything. It stinks, but we aren’t alone and can’t complain because we know the miracle that will be in our arms next fall/winter.

Thank you all for your prayers and love. It gets us by each day to read your new comments and emails. We can’t thank you enough.

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Carrian Cheney

Lover of all things beautiful, good and delicious. Wife, mother, friend, foodie.

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112 comments on “Things Don’t Always Go As Planned”

  1. Hello,

    I stumbled upon your blog only through the hashtag on instagram #hyperemesis searching for people who I could relate with. I’m currently 11weeks pregnant and have been diagnosed with HG since five weeks pregnant. There truly is not enough real and raw information or awareness about HG out there. It’s hard to hear people compare it with ‘morning sickness’ as it is on a whole different level to that. It’s the worst thing I have experienced and all I try to focus on is the end result, hopefully a healthy happy baby. Thank you for the post and hopefully more people will understand the condition. Good luck in the rest of your pregnancy.

    • Thank you so much for writing. It really is such a different world. I hope your doctor is proactive with IV’s and checking on you as that’s what will help the most so you don’t crash. I’m planning on posting this weekend about the truth of HG as so many just don’t understand. We are only a week apart too! Thinking and praying for you!! Hang in there!!

  2. You are one amazingly strong and inspiring mama… We are praying for you and your sweet, sweet family <3 <3 <3

  3. Your strength and positive outlook is amazing and such an inspiration. You are definitely not alone, as God has His arms wrapped around you and that sweet baby! I am lifting up prayers that He continues to sustain you and to give you strength to endure. Hugs sweet girl!!! And that picture of you with the girls is beyond adorable!!!

  4. My heart continues to go out to you and your family. Sending lots of love and prayers. But I’d love to do more, so let me know if I can. xoxo

  5. Oh, I am so sorry that you’re going through this. I can only imagine how hard this must be. Your positive attitude is incredibly inspiring! You are such a strong person. You and your family (and baby to be!) will be in my prayers 🙂

  6. I had this with my two pregnancies. I had an experimental procedure done were they inserted the feeding tube into my intestine through my abdominal wall. It saved mine and my babies life… We did try the feeding tube through the nose but I threw it up within half an hour of having it placed. If you have questions please email me. I would love to tell you about my of luck and sending prayers

    • Hi Tara, thank you so much. That is the NJ tube I would have placed, but I was able to keep some things down in the hospital for those 4 days so we have avoided it so far which is our plan.

  7. Carrian,

    I missed last week’s post so I have to start with a big congratulations!

    I will continue to send prayers and positive thoughts your way as you continue your journey and both you and your teeny babe grow strong!

    Your photo on this post is adorable!! Happy Mother’s Day to you today!!

  8. You are by FAR one of the toughest and real ladies I know – I say it all the time – but you deserve to hear it every time I think it 🙂 <3

  9. From my heart my most sincere wishes for this journey. My thoughts will be with you and your family.

  10. Had lots of nausea also and used ginger (crystallized) with great success,and it tastes great! Best of luck to you and baby.

  11. Oh Carrian, I hope you are doing better. So sorry you have to go through this.xo April

  12. You are amazing for going through this again a 3rd time! Pregnancy is hard enough without this. I wish you strength and pray for you that all will go well! I just had my 3rd baby, even though it’s so hard, especially for you, it’s SO worth it to have a sweet baby!

  13. I give you and your family a lot of credit for proceeding with this pregnancy . I don’t think I could do this, I have 2 healthy and wonderful grown children and I’m a retired nurse! Wher I say you are in my thoughts and prayers , I’m not kidding !!! My prayer is that God hears all the prayers that are being sent he’s way and protects you, your baby and your whole family !! ❤️

    • Donna, so sweet of you. It was a really big decision for us and I’m so grateful to have that peace that it was the right decision, especially on those really hard days.

  14. God bless you and your family. May the Lord Jesus’ healing hands be upon you and your baby. Happy Mother’s Day in advance.

  15. Get well soon and being positive makes me realise that we should feel lucky for the small things in life and not worry so much. Enjoy your posts from UK. Keep strong! x

  16. Praying that tomorrow goes even better then today 🙂 Prayers for the whole family. You have the right attitude and I definitely think that is huge in dealing with the bumps of life.

  17. I missed your post last week. Happiness for a baby. Scary to have to go through what you are. Definitely prayers for you and your family. May the Lord’s blessings and comfort be with you!

  18. I just caught up on everything and first off – CONGRATS! I am so sorry you are going through this. I have two friends who also had extremely serious cases of HG. It was so brutal. You are so brave and strong. I am so glad to hear that the baby is thriving. Sending you good vibes that your body responds and you can start thriving as well. Hugs! Alyssa

  19. You are so brave to know what lies ahead and be willing to go through it all again. It will definitely be worth it in the end! How hard to love food so much and not be able to eat. I can only imagine. Prayers to you and your family!

  20. So very sorry to hear your news. Will keep you in my prayers. You are a very special lady.

  21. In my prayers!

  22. God bless you and your entire family! Praying for y’all!

  23. Oh sweet Carrian! I am so sorry that to bring in the miracle of a child you have to go thru this struggle and trial. Congratulations on being pregnant. I know you can get thru this and I will keep you in my prayers!

  24. Blessings to you and your family. God holds you in the palm of His hand.

  25. Thinking of you and saying a prayer for you and your sweet baby (and family).

  26. Thinking of you Carrian, and sending loads of prayers your way!!

  27. All positive prayers coming your way to you and you family.

  28. Praying for more sweet mercies in your day!

  29. Sending best wishes to your family.

  30. Sending you well wishes!

  31. You are so strong–I’m so sorry you’re having to go through all of this, but your attitude is so amazing! I hope things start to get better for you soon and that your sweet little baby keeps being healthy 🙂

  32. Thoughts and prayers for healing!

  33. Will keep you, your baby, your husband and little girls in my prayers.
    I’ll ask St. Gerard to watch over you. (He’s the patron saint of expectant mothers – I was named after him when my mom had a difficult pregnancy).
    Take care, all is well.
    Geri (mom of blogger Lauren Grier/ClimbingGrierMountain)

    • So sweet of you! Thank you so much and how beautiful that you were named after him. Your mom must have been a strong woman as pregnancy can be so difficult.

  34. I truely understand what your going through. I’m a retired RN and had a few patients that had the same problem, it’s so difficult. I will be praying for you. God Bless.

    • Mary, thank you so much for the comment. It is such a weird thing that many just can’t understand. It feels so good when I know someone else has seen it and knows it is not normal nausea. Thank you.

  35. I hope everything turns out okay for you! It will all be worth it in the end 🙂

  36. I am sorry to hear of your temporary health issue. Know that our Lord God will be with you always, and He has a plan for you. He is watching over your baby and you, and your whole family. Have faith Carrian, and keep up the good attitude. You are a child of God, he won’t forsake you.

  37. Praying for you and the baby. You are in God’s Hands and He will take care of you both.

  38. I’m praying that by HIS stripes you are healed. In JESUS name, AMEN. Thank you for all your delicious recipes. I look forward to hearing of your speedy recovery.

    Have a blessed weekend.

    Adaku Ononogbo

  39. Praying with you sweet friend and lifting you up to a mighty King!

  40. I am so sorry to hear this. I hope your medical team is able to get you stabilized so that you are able to go home soon.

  41. Prayers abound from this corner of the world to knowing that the Divine Presence is with you filling you with Perfect Health. And to put a smile on your face, if Duchess Kate can do it, so can you.

  42. Hopefully you will get to come home soon. Maybe you will find something good to eat that you will be able to keep down. When I was pregnant with my first daughter, I lost weight right away. I couldn’t keep anything down. Sick for 9 months. The only thing that tasted good was watermelon and chocolate milk. I was never hospitalized but did not feel good at all. I will keep you and your sweet little baby in my prayers…

  43. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  44. Good luck to you all! You guys are so amazing, hang in there. The Lord is mindful of you and knows that you’ll be able to endure this. You’ll be in my thoughts and prayers! Your girls are too cute! Love you all. Corianne

  45. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family. May you have a healthy pregnancy and delivery and be home with your family soon. Take care and God bless 🙂

  46. Get well, keep strong x

  47. I’ve been praying for you since I saw your news last week. Praying strength and comfort for all of you through this time. Your new little one will be worth it. {hugs}

  48. Oh my goodness, girl! I missed the announcement last week and can’t even imagine what you’re going through (my body decided to pack on the pounds while I was pregnant and I’m still working on getting them off 😉 but I’m praying lots for you, that you and that sweet baby will stay so healthy! I know I can’t do much but let me know if you need a guest post from me while you’re out!!

  49. Feel better, sweet friend!!

  50. Prayers are with your whole family including that sweet baby thats growing. Hoping you can get home this weekend to recoup in your own bed.

  51. Oh, sweetie! You and you family are in our thoughts and prayers. I am sure some day you will sit down with those beautiful babies and tell them how much you loved them even before they were born.

  52. My heart is bursting at that photo of you and the girls. I will keep my fingers crossed that that baby keeps on truckin’ and you keep on keepin’ on, sweet friend!! Hugs to you all!

  53. Keeping you in my prayers, Carrian! Hang in there! xoxo

  54. What a sweet, sweet picture of a mama taking comfort in her girls! Your attitude is amazing in all this – prayers for you and your family!

  55. Oh friend…I had no idea. Prayers for your family.

  56. I suffered from this and was in the hospital with every pregnancy… Also included a couple late term miscarriages… Was on home health care and had pic lines. Hope you can avoid them but if not, a healthy baby is the best prize good luck and thanks for sharing. This level is not common and there really isn’t enough info about it. Only those who have it can truly understand that’s for sure.

  57. Your positive attitude is so inspiring. Praying for you and your whole family. xoxoxo