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Dad’s Advice on Being Pretty

I went to church without makeup, but there’s a story about dad.

He’s struggling with healing though he might not love that I’m admitting the truth to you all. It’s ok that he might not ever be the same, but today I thought of his lesson.

The Dad Timer

I had a timer for awhile as a teenager that told me to get out of the shower.


I miiiiiiiight have been a long shower taker. But it wasn’t a bell, it was my dad.

And it buuuuugged.

After a while dad would come knock at the door and tell me to get out and then I’d roll my eyes as I proceeded to get ready, all dressed, towel on my head, bathroom door open and lights off (duh because you always look better without those bright yellow bathroom lights on 😂) as I slowly applied my makeup.

Then I’d hear it, the honking of the horn and flinging open of the door as someone yelled that we were going to be late to church. I’d yell back, “I’ll drive myself!!!!”

A photo of a mother with no makeup on sitting next to her daughters on a couch.

Lessons from Dad

Dad put his arm around me one day and said, “Carri, if getting ready or makeup ever make you late or you find you have to sacrifice in order to get ready like waking up ridiculously early then you have forgotten that you’re beautiful because you’re my daughter and you’ve let the vanities of the world in too deep. Be on time, especially to church, even if you have to go without makeup. And one day, the boy that will love you forever will be the one that loves you most of all when you’ve washed your face at night. Be natural, then occasionally get dolled up and let people be in awe because it’s something special and pretty vs every time you get ready. You’re beautiful because you love & show it, no amount of makeup can ever create that kind of beauty.”

Ugh. 🤦🏻‍♀️ 🙄
He obviously didn’t know anything.

Am I Vain?

Slowly but surely I found myself looking in the mirror and wondering if I was vain. That’s a hard truth.

There really is a peace that comes from being ok with who you are when all things pass away.

Happy and Confident No Matter What

If the world falls apart next year and you can’t wear makeup, get Botox, your clothes are two years old and your car has a dent in the bumper, will you still stand head held high?

I want my girls to see me just as happy and confident just as I am so they feel enough too.

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About the authors

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Cade and Carrian have three children and love to spend time together whether it’s vacationing or snuggled up on the couch for a good movie.

And this family especially loves to eat.

They love everything from the keep you fit and healthy to the get out your sweat pants indulgent and everything in between.

But most of all, they love the memories made, shared and treasured and it’s all thanks to a meal shared together with loved ones.

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  • Your Dad was and is absolutely right!! I fully believe that makeup often hides the most beautiful parts of a girl’s and a woman’s face. I actually prefer seeing my wife and daughter makeup-free. Makeup shouldn’t define you, but enhance in those special times that YOU chose. Love yourself for who yo are! A beautiful daughter of our Heavenly Father. And say Hi! to Papa Ronnie for me.

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    • Thank you so much Joel! Beautifully said and so so true! He says hi!

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  • Your dad is sooo right!
    Beauty shines from the inside out and not the other way around!
    Hope your dad is feeling better and getting stronger day by day!
    I read somewhere, it may not all be perfect, but there are perfect moments that we need to treasure!
    Be well and stay safe!

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    • That is beautiful! Thank you so much Luisa! I love that…perfect moments we need to treasure. I appreciate your support so much!

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  • This is beautiful. Thank you so, so much for sharing your dad’s wisdom with us – he’s right, but I think his advice will make many of us squirm because it does, indeed, hit home!

    God bless,

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    • Thank you so much Chrissy!

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  • I Love this story! It made me stop and think how we get so caught up in our looks, instead of remembering we are beautiful inside and out with or without makeup, I will share this story with my daughters!

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    • Thank you so much Vicktoria! It’s so true that we can get so caught up in things that are so unimportant! Thank you so much for the support!

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  • Such a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing that. Your dad is a wise man!

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    • Thank you! I sure think the world of him!

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  • Thanks for this! I’m the mom who drops the kids off without makeup but always with a smile, I’m the wife who then runs home to get myself in order to spend the day running my husband’s business, I’m the mom who fetches her kids made up, I’m the mom who puts them to bed with a clean face. I’m the wife who’s husband appreciates the make up but I’m also the wife whose husband says “I love you and thank you” without the makeup!

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    • Love love love! Thank you Emma!

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