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If You’re on the Right Path it Will Always be Uphill

Have you heard the quote, “If You’re on the Right Path it Will Always be Uphill”? I’ve found it to be so true, but uphill doesn’t have to mean it’s hopeless.

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When we decided to open up to all and be totally real, the good, the bad, the ugly, and really start sharing more about food, life and love everything got worse. Bloggers got mean, “don’t mix personal with food, who wants to hear about you being a mom, and your husband going through unemployment”.

Some readers did the same, “your food and photos are disgusting, and we don’t care about your stories”.

On top of all of that, cade WAS unemployed still.

I had just had our second child after the hardest pregnancy out of them all and she was colicky, had food allergies we didn’t know about yet and acid reflux so she screamed and cried ALL THE TIME. 👶🏼

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You Know it’s Bad When it’s a Shower Cry

I remember standing in the shower and completely falling apart, sobbing like a baby. 😭

I couldn’t do this.

I couldn’t stay hopeful when we’d been without a job for a year already.

I couldn’t go one more sleepless night or one more 12 hour day of a baby screaming inconsolably, and I certainly couldn’t do this blog thing.

I stood there and cried and prayed for miracles. 😭😭

🚿 I wish I could say that peace washed over me, or I got out and cade was there with good news or heck, that the baby was sleeping, but instead, Cade was downstairs after a job interview had called to say he was overqualified (which feels worse than under, trust me) and he was holding a crying baby with our older daughter crying over who knows what.

Things Didn’t Get Better That Day

Things didn’t get better that day, week or even for another year, but I pushed forward on faith and hope because I’d felt it, literally felt called to motherhood, blogging and this life.

I didn’t have the answers but I knew there was a plan, so every day I got up and said my prayers, read my scriptures and promised that even if life sucked in some areas, and it did, that I wouldn’t stop believing that there is a God and that one day these trials would turn out to have been blessings in disguise.

And they have.

They changed Cade and I forever.

Trials Don’t Mean You Aren’t Good Enough, or are Being Punished or Forgotten

Trials don’t mean you aren’t good enough or are being punished or forgotten.

Hurting means that you’re becoming who you are meant to be.

You can’t rise to greatness without pushing up from the ground first.

Trials mean you’re stronger and can become more.

The hard part isn’t enduring a trial. Either way you have to keep living. You should keep living. The hard part is finding the hope and peace to not just survive but thrive in a trial.

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carrian feik cheney oh sweet basil

Cade and Carrian have three children and love to spend time together whether it’s vacationing or snuggled up on the couch for a good movie.

And this family especially loves to eat.

They love everything from the keep you fit and healthy to the get out your sweat pants indulgent and everything in between.

But most of all, they love the memories made, shared and treasured and it’s all thanks to a meal shared together with loved ones.

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  • Carrian,
    Thank you so much for your honesty and sharing a bit of your story with us. I often wonder how it is some lives can appear to be too perfect, but as you can attest to, we all have our trials. I guess the key is not allowing them to define us and believing  “this too shall pass.” Thanks again.

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    • It is so true! Everyone has their story and their trials, and we never know the path the someone has been on. We definitely don’t allow them to define us, but we do allow them to refine us into someone better, more compassionate, and more empathetic! Thank you for sharing your insight with us! Xoxo!

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  • This is beautiful.

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    • Thank you Charly! Xoxo!

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  • Thank you for this. I needed it more than I can explain. 

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    • You’re so welcome Cait! Hang in there! Xoxo!

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  • I just want you to know how much I enjoy your blog, from hearing about your family and your food. I’m just so amazed at how cruel people can be and it is hard to turn away from hurtful comments. Just keep doing what you’re doing no matter what a negative person says. They’re just unhappy with their life and feel better when they think they’re bringing someone else down. Keep your chin up!!

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    • Thanks, Marian! Your support means so much to us!

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  • Your story will give many people hope. Thanks for sharing.

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    • Thank you Carolyn! That’s the whole reason we share stories about our personal life. The chance that one person will gain an ounce of hope or a glimmer of peace is all we need!

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  • Love this.  Thank you for sharing.    I will bookmark it so I can look back on it on those particularly tough days.   
    I’m sorry people can be so cruel. I love all aspects of your blog and thank you again for continuing to share!   

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    • Thank you Susan! You can’t please everyone, so it’s ok!

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